I just had an eye opening experience today and I’d love to share it with you and hope you feel the same!
I’ve always read and heard self help books and audio recordings that list different ways to improve your life, earn more money, and be more successful. I’ve also heard it said many times that successful people accept 100% responsibility for their actions and what happens to them.
Well, I heard it again today and I finally “got it“! I realized that for the past 5 years (the time I’ve been married) I had been believing that I’m not the one who will earn money and be successful, but that my husband will (and should), he should be the one to make a six figure income, work a 9-5 job, and get promoted and move up the corporate ladder while I will stay home and watch the kids. This limiting belief also kept me in the mind frame that my business was just to earn some income until he got done with college so we could pay the bills!
My husband, Jacob, is a great person, but he is not the ambitious-entrepreneur-goal setting type. On the other hand, I have lofty goals and plans for our life together; the kind of house we want, places we want to travel, being able to support our extended families and our parents upon retirement, the cars we drive, and much more! I have to take 100% responsibility for what happens in my life, and until that happens, I realize that I’m waiting around for my husband to deliver my dreams and lifestyle or for God to create a miracle (such as winning the McDonalds Monopoly game).
So many things change when I apply the “100% responsibility” principle. I realize that NO ONE other than me, not even my husband will be able to make all those things happen because I’m the one who wants them. I’m the one who has the passion and the vision to feel and taste the kind of business and income I want to create. It’s refreshing and gives me a sense of freedom to know, that I don’t have to wait 4 years until Jacob finishes school to have the kind of lifestyle I want. I can do it myself! I have all the resources, support, and tools I need to accomplish my goals and dreams, and I don’t have to wait around for anyone to do it!
What are you blaming your failures on? What kind of excuses are you creating to keep yourself from accepting the reality, that you are ultimately responsible for what happens to you? Some of my personal obstacles that kept me from accepting 100% responsibility;
- My husband should be the one to support the family
- I’m too tired because I’m pregnant
- It’s not possible to create the kind of income I want with this business
- I’ll start tomorrow, it won’t make a difference
- I can’t get that program launched because I need a professional to do it
- My copywriting isn’t good enough
- Someone else already has a similar product; program, business, service offering
- My virtual assistant can’t do it/didn’t get it done
- We’re in a recession/bad economy
I’m making a personal vow to create my own life and stop waiting around for it to come on it’s own, because that will never happen. I vow to work hard now and play later! I vow to do something, (no matter how small or insignificant) everyday that will get me one step closer to my dreams.
P.S. When I was almost 6 years old, my dad traded our house in Cuba for a raft (one of those blow up boats) and along with a friend and my 3 siblings, rowed to Key West, Florida. Along the way our sandwiches spoiled so we ran out of food and we could only drink a capful of water at a time. When we were getting close to Key West, the raft popped! Luckily we were near this really tall tower. We all climbed up the tower and started praying and singing. I’m not sure how much time went by but some Coast Guard people rescued us. We were sunburnt and hungry but happy! I remember we left our Bible on the tower open in the middle.
My dad was known in Cuba as the “crazy Yuma guy” who wanted to escape at all costs! He gave up his engineering license to get a Visa, but when it was denied, he came up with the raft plan. If we would’ve been caught, my dad would have gone to jail immediately. I forget at times that the only reason I’m in this country and have the lifestyle and freedom I have today is because one “crazy Yuma guy” wouldn’t give up on his dream, and he took responsibility to get it done! He risked everything! I’m getting emotional now, but I felt like sharing this story because it’s one of the best, personal examples I have of making your dreams come true.